3 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life

If sleep is consistently sexier than…sex, it may be time to shake things up! Here are 3 simple ways to spice up your sex life:

1. Role-play. I’m not talking about pretending to be a French maid (though whatever strikes your fancy!). I’m talking about mixing it up! Many couples get into a routine when it comes to sex. They follow cues as if they’re scripted. It’s essential to play a different part every so often.  So switch it up. If you usually skip foreplay, try having a hot make-out session. If he always initiates-see how it feels to make the first move.

2. Change the time. You’d be amazed how many couples say their sex lives improved once figured out their general ‘cut off’ time-the time of day when sex is just unappealing. You may find that you’re a zombie after 10 pm or learn that he has more energy for morning sex. If you want to spice things, try getting down at a different time of day.

3. Talk. I’m not talking about dirty talk (though that’s fun, too) but if you want to spice up your sex life, you need to be able to communicate your needs and wants. If you’re too shy to do that, turn off the lights and initiate a conversation about sex. Express your fantasies, what turns you on and what you want to try more of.

You don’t need to swing from the chandeliers to spice things up. Changing it up will do wonders for your sex life.


About the author

Andrea Syrtash

Contributor to over a dozen relationship advice books. Author of He's Just Not Your Type (And That's a Good Thing); Cheat On Your Husband (With Your Husband) (Rodale Books 2010 & 2011). Co-Author of It's Okay to Sleep with Him on the First Date: And Every Other Rule of Dating Debunked (Harlequin Non-Fiction, July 2013)